“I can’t find the rhyme in all my reason;

Lost sense of time and all seasons.

Feel I’ve been beaten down

by the words of men who have no grounds.

Can’t sleep beneath the trees of wisdom

when your axe has cut the roots that feed them

Forked tongues in bitter mouths

can drive a man to bleed from inside out.

What if you did?

What if you lied?

What if I avenge?

What if eye for an eye?

~ “What If” Creed

DV-100 Item 23 – Description of Abuse

Since I applied for the original restraining order on 9/12/2011, I have received over 60 text messages and emails and over 50 items in the mail between 9/12/2011 – 9/16/2011. Text messages said Mr. Lastman is going to “rearrange his looks for good” which referred to my husband. Mr. Lastman threatened to contact my kids. Landyn Lastman continuously sends offensive text messages “Shithead, his ass, fucker” etc. Some of his emails states “Don’t threaten me with no contact”, “I don’t need you to be disrespectful otherwise you will receive the same in return”. “Shithead could fuck an orangutan and bring you back the Ebola”, “Our ending never sat well with me””, “Someone will pay”, “Call the National Guard and SEALS to come invade me I don’t give a shit”, “If you try to hurt me in any way, you will deal with me, and if you don’t like it, tough shit”, “No one will be safe, this is what happens when you fuck with good people”, “It’s fucked up and it’s time you face the music”, “Anya died” etc. Mr. Lastman continues to threaten me and my kids and I’m very concerned about his comment to do bodily harm to my husband as mentioned above. I have attached copies of text messages along with copies of pictures. I’ve asked repeatedly to stop contacting me but it seems like the more I ask, the more he escalates in anger and does not stop harassing me and my family. He has also contacted my friends and harassed them by messaging them about my life and how terrible my situation is to him.

Also since I applied for the restraining order last week, 9/12/2011, I have received an unusually high counts of phone calls and hang ups to my home. I received over 50 items in the mail sent to my house packaged and disguised as coming from his old place of employment with their business information since 9/12/2011, last Monday. I have attached copies of pictures of items sent in the mail along with copious amounts of messages. The items include, but not limited to: CD’s, DVD’s, a bra, and a soiled beach towel sprayed with mens cologne, random shopping bags, vulgar and offensive notes attacking my husband and his character and references made to my children and contacting them. I have also received books on divorce with endless pages of hi-lighted paragraphs and handwritten notes and instructions and directions to me. The vulgar notes include “the time has come to teach your kids what matter most in this life”, “This is the consequence”, “Happy Birthday Asswipe” etc. The books are called “The Good Divorce” and “Cheat” something. There are over 200 pages highlighted on subjects such as “letting go of guilt”, “How to”, “Disorderly and Orderly Separation”, “What divorce is and is not”, “Pathways to a good divorce”, “What’s normal in a divorce” etc.

Along with submitted physical evidence of Mr. Lastman’s harassment and stalking, there have been several recent events that are completely out of what is normal in our lives. These events include an increased amount of phone calls and hang ups to my home, a sighting of Mr. Lastman driving by, and a break into one of our cars on Sunday 9/18/2011 which occurred on my driveway. I have filed a break in report with the Long Beach Police Dept. this morning on 9/20/2011 with the DR#112-61586. I also filed a harassment charge report with the same officer with the DR#112-61587 today. This was my 2nd harassment report against Mr. Lastman in 2 years.

I met Mr. Lastman over 4 years ago. He has been harassing and stalking me for over 2 years and I would just like to be left alone. I don’t want Mr. Lastman to continue to threaten, harass, stalk me and my family. He has psychologically abused me for years and I’m in fear for my life and the well-being of my kids and husband and friends. Mr. Lastman is obsessed with me and stalks me. He knows information about me and my family in detail. He makes references to them. “How is your arm from your car accident?”, “You never told me about your family night Sunday dinners”, “Call your family lawyer”.

I would just please like to request Mr. Lastman to stop harassing me so it doesn’t keep going for 4 more years of calling the police and going to court.

Thank you for your consideration.

On the same day this filing full of false accusations was received, and before reading these words from the one who attacked me for questioning her love, a violent knock on my apartment door disturbed the silence. It wasn’t for a couple days after Jackson's birthday surprise was delivered that the server appeared at my door. During those two days it left me wondering if they mocked my perceived power by not reacting—or if it even made it to their house at all. A stocky, balding gentleman stood at my door with an eagle like stare—likely being a part of their network. He asked if my name was Landyn Lastman, and I answered with a nod. He then served me the paperwork, but instead of walking away, he stared me down again in disgust, unnerving me enough to ask if he was friends with both Anya and Jackson.

“No. I don’t know them.” He claimed, shaking his head. “I’m just here to hand you the paper work.”

Nodding, my eyes never left him even as he walked away, exiting my apartment complex.

How did he get in? And how did he know exactly where to go? And why the look of disgust if he didn’t know Anya and Jackson on a personal level? It was hard to blame him—he only got one side of the story. After closing the door, there was no other option but to open the package to read what they had to say about the gift, in what appeared to be distressed handwriting. If they believed there was any joy and satisfaction in what I did, they couldn’t have been more wrong about anything. Nobody wants to jump off a bridge, but when there’s too much mental anguish it feels like the only option. I didn’t care about the restraining order—it broke my heart to do it. Anya was all I ever lived and breathed for. We communicated with each other throughout the day for two years—her loss was tremendous and overwhelming. I implored her for an apology, at least some kind of acknowledgment for infecting my life, just so I could move on and get over it, so to speak. In all honesty, losing her was something I’d just never get over—being in her life was the best two years of mine, but at least, I could leave her alone. In the end, her love ruined me forever, putting me several years away from being able to offer someone any semblance of value. With a damaged heart, mind and soul—having and raising a family of my own was a dream forever doomed. It even added an element of jealousy and envy beyond her staying with a well off shadow philanderer—she had a family to fall back on—I had an unsettling emptiness impossible to describe that needed a pill to quell. There was no simply getting over this. Love just meant more to me than it meant to most people—especially those who were married. Without being married, apparently in her mind, I was not privy to love being only an ideal but also nothing to believe in, forever.

After reading her intentionally false statements, there was zero chance I’d ever allow myself to care or love someone again. If I couldn’t love someone the only way I knew how, without their reservations, then it just wasn’t worth loving someone. If a married person who pursued me because she was cheated on and disrespected by her husband couldn’t appreciate what I offered enough to leave, then all hope was gone. If I had to love someone by holding back all the love inside me, then it only confirmed love would never be mine to have. Although only in self defense would I ever harm someone physically, after sending the gift, the restraining order was deserved—I earned it. The understanding she had to seek a restraining order was there on my end. I couldn’t handle giving my heart and soul to someone that looked upon me as an immoral person--a piece of shit only worthy of her love in secret even after asking if I'd fight for her. This restraining order confirmed her love was based on whim and fancy—nothing more. She was only looking for a filler to a life that became too mundane—never able to see the sacrifices of my own happiness and reputation made, just for her to have a shot at happiness again. Without doing something this drastic, this calculated, I would just continue to love someone who never existed forever.

The restraining order really didn’t bother me after sending the gift—at this point what else could she do? To read the outright lies she wrote down, the evil intent behind them, as if she hadn’t already destroyed my life with her deception, was tough to swallow. Anya accused me of things that never entered my stream of consciousness of doing. As much as I missed her over the last two years, not once did I drive by her home. For her to file a false police report accusing me of breaking into and ransacking her car was unreal. The police official who took that report must have been a neighbor of hers, or Carolyn’s paramour—it was never questioned. It was one thing to protect your kids, but another thing entirely to try to destroy another’s life with lies.

While reading her words several times over, it left me wondering how she would feel if some woman deceived Andrew the way she deceived me? How she could make false accusations to a police officer, to intentionally destroy another woman's son, who she knew was at home fighting Cancer? I understood Anya’s anger with me. I didn’t blame her for going out and getting a restraining order—it was the best thing to do after the gift was delivered, but she knew there was a finality behind my act. The lies were impossible to witness, to watch all the beauty die in her so easily. She had more than enough evidence to get the restraining order, so much so I planned not to fight it, but she took it too far with the lies. All she had to do was one thing to avoid this—simply apologize for her deception—it’s all she had to do. When she lied, just like Jackson would lie, she morphed into the same demon her husband was. I got the Anya that broke a man’s heart when Jackson came back into her life. I got the Anya who hurt a man so bad, he felt inclined to leave the state to deal with his sadness. I got the Anya who claimed she was a victim of stalking, but I now saw how she operated, leaving me empathizing with her “stalker”. Anya gave me all the proof in the world that lying to destroy me was always an option for her. Destroying people with the truth in self-defense was respectable, but trying to destroy someone with lies to cover up lies was an entirely different beast. Anya’s motto was “I’d do anything to protect my kids”, but she was protecting them with lies that served herself. Not discounting that there were times she had to lie for their benefit, all parents had to do that from time to time, but to lie on this grand of scale was intolerable.

After a few days passed, I tried seeing things through her eyes. Her harsh words were deserved, sending the gift made me no angel in this. I accepted my responsibility for the truth of my actions, but to file a false break in report was impossible to understand. The day she dated me was the day she told me “Landyn, my marriage doesn’t matter to me”, never referring to it as a marriage but only as a situation—even claiming there was “no marriage”. She always reiterated she wasn’t choosing him or her marriage over me, yet these false statements told me she did just that. Her kids were a major reason she did this too, but at a time she should be honest, she instead chose dishonesty, even to the extent of trying to destroy someone’s life. She was in a two-year relationship with me that she fully initiated. If losing her marriage meant risking everything and that mattered to her, then telling me I broke her heart should never have been said after giving her five entire months to sit on it. She had kids before she met me and if her plan was to sit there and systematically pass judgment on me, then this was her fucking bed to sleep in. If her marriage meant anything to her, then she betrayed my trust by allowing and encouraging me to fall in love with her. Did she have a drug addiction too, or maybe even multiple personalities? Seeing the Anya I grew to know and love completely vanish, broke my heart more than anything ever could. If she ever believed she had to give up her kids for us to be together, she betrayed me the very first night we met.

Staring at a quarter of a full dulled orange prescription bottle, heavily depressed and already doped up on painkillers, I reached out to Debbie to explain my side of the story.

Hi Debbie,

I have a feeling you know why I’m emailing you. If you need to tell Anya about this email, I have no problem with that. She needs all the friends in the world these days. I promise you will never receive another email from me, unless of course you want to talk to me.

Please tell Anya I know Jackson made her do what she is doing. Also, PLEASE let her know, I have and had zero intention of contacting Katie and Andrew. I would never do such a thing. The kids are innocent in all of this and didn’t ask to be a part of it. I just feel it’s important for them to know someday, not who I am, but what will truly bring them both happiness in this world. That’s her call and always has been. It’s not my place to reach out to them.

She claims in her restraining order statement that I’ve “contacted her friends and harassed them by messaging them about my life and how terrible my situation is to him”. Notwithstanding the fact what she told me about the terribleness of her situation that allowed me to feel so much for her, the true reason for emailing you and Carolyn was it bothered me knowing about his infidelities,, but you guys didn’t, yet she was receiving advice from you both (not that it is bad advice), without all the facts. You girls just didn’t know what I knew. You didn’t know what I was told and my reasons for fighting for her to leave Jackson, so I wanted you to at least have that information about him. I care about Anya. I would never dream of physically hurting her in any way, shape or form. This restraining order is ridiculous. I haven’t been within 10 miles of her home in the last 3 years let alone 100 feet. It’s not about the restraining order being temporary or permanent, I don’t know a thing about how they work, but win or lose, either way it won’t matter because I would never reach out to her kids or harm anyone physically.

These are the facts, Debbie. As a married person, Anya approached me. She asked for my phone number. She set up a date with me. She initiated our entire relationship even the meetings. Anya was more than just my lover but also my best friend. She loved me with her “heart and soul” and her “everything” yet when I returned the love she gave to me, she considered it a criminal act and accused me of wanting to hurt her kids and break up a family. I don’t think anyone would have handled that well knowing and feeling all that I did. I pushed Anya to listen to herself through me. This breakup went down in a very bad way and because of that, it never brought me the closure I needed to move on, but also the closure I deserved because my character was questioned. Anya is a beautiful woman and most guys wouldn’t have asked her “If you’re unhappy, why are you still there?” She told me “It was because no one would want to be with a divorcee with baggage”. I told her she was wrong. I asked her what I needed to do to get her to leave him. She responded, “I need you to sweep me off my feet”. For 2 years, I trusted those very words. For a year and a half before our fallout, she told me I had swept her off her feet and that was all I needed to do. Everyday, I would give her very valid reasons to leave him because I trusted everything she told me about her pain and unhappiness. Things I saw and felt from her as well. I knew everything, things you and Carolyn didn’t know, so that’s why I’ve pushed so hard and fought for her, not because I wanted to hurt her kids and break up a family. When she still didn’t know, I felt she couldn’t have been truly in love with me because I did all she asked of me, and because I gave her so many valid reasons to leave. Many more reasons than people who left for much less. If she didn’t love me, then I had the right to know, but she fought me on it whenever I questioned her, so I feel I have the right to care about her “terrible” situation more than anyone does. Her accident (I didn’t realize it was a car accident), breaks my heart and also angers me. I wanted to hold her in my arms and take care of her. You have no idea how hard it’s been on me to know she was hurt badly. I know, through my mother’s illness, the most important thing about recovery is being cared for emotionally. My Dad isn’t there for my mother as much as I think he should be, I am. So, I know first hand how important that is for Anya to have, and I know how she doesn’t have that. I didn’t want Anya to go through times like that alone in her life when she should always have someone there for her. I wanted her to have someone who was TRULY there. She shared with me a lot of things, including all the times she ran the kids around in hazardous conditions and it bothered me she never got a hand with that from Jackson. How many times she was alone in scary places at night so her son could do his activities. I FEARED this would happen because I knew how she lived her life every single day. I fought with her because I feared she might get hurt badly one day running them around. She even told me “Not having you in my life is beyond scary”, and I understood better why as time passed on and I learned more about how terrible her situation truly was and is. I wanted her kids to have 100% of the best mom, and not what’s left of her. I wanted her to have the help she needed. This wasn’t all about me and my broken heart, trust me. I’m certain if she were with me, there would have been no accident. I’ve written and said some terrible things to her, but I was really hurt she didn’t reach out to me after the accident or even when I asked about it. I was upset about being accused of harassing and stalking her when she allowed and encouraged me to feel as strongly as I did and still do. I noticed her left forearm, near her wrist, didn’t look right in the Facebook profile picture she posted. Although I wasn’t sure if the pic quality was grainy, but the more I zoomed in, the more something didn’t look right to me. I asked her about it, but she ignored me. She then finally told me last week in a letter. When it comes to her health, all this garbage about how I feel is just that—garbage. After all the man she married has taken from her, and he has taken a lot, I don’t understand why she stands up for him as much as she does. He doesn’t deserve that even for the sake of the kids. If he did, I’d be the first to announce it. If he cheated on a healthy pregnant wife all because of a natural weight gain, there’s little doubt he would also cheat on an unhealthy wife one day too. I’d take her with a wooden leg, at least the Anya I thought I knew.

In her restraining order statements, she accused me of a few things I didn’t nor would I ever do, but I’m sure Jackson is pushing her to lie or he will threaten to tell the kids and take them from her, so he could keep his tax deductions and filing status, the wonderful man he is. For the record, I never broke into her car. I would never do such a thing. I never called her house and hung up once, let alone the number of times she’s accused me of doing. Trust me, if I ever called the house, the last thing I’d do is hang up. I would even leave a message. I would’ve never bothered writing her a single letter, let alone the thirty page monstrosity I did, if all I had to do was pick up the phone to talk to her. Maybe it was one of Jackson’s girlfriends who called and hung up? Why couldn’t that be a possibility when you take into consideration his past? I know about the true origin of the calling and hanging up as much as they do, if that is even happening at all. I will admit this though—I don’t like Jackson as Anya’s husband. I don’t like the fact I was in his life for a single day if Anya had no intentions to leave no matter what I did for her. However, since I am, I don’t care for the fact he disrespected and dishonored his wife and with my gift, I was returning this pain to its rightful owner. I had to defend myself, Debbie. Neither Anya or I were out to break up a family nor were we out to hurt her kids. Anya did not betray her kids—Jackson did the day he led Anya to feel the way she did about him, the day he began to chip her feelings away for him by the conscious decisions and choices he made to cheat on her, and he needs to be held accountable for that. I was in her life for a reason—a good one.

Always support Anya’s happiness. There’s nothing irrational about being happy in life, especially if you’re angry about it enough to risk everything. The Anya I knew and grew to love is as good as they come and she deserves to be happy in life. I know where her happiness truly comes from.

Please be vigilant over her. Please do not trust Jackson. His ability to provide for his family can only hide so much. After reading this statement full of lies, he doesn’t care about what people will think about her. He’s leaving her out there to be viciously judged, and even be put in a position to be imprisoned and or be heavily fined for perjury, while he goes unscathed, and I can’t understand for the very life of me anyone can support him doing so. I won’t allow him to get away with doing this to her. People will learn what he is all about when I go to court on the 13th of October. I think you and Carolyn both know Jackson isn’t as good to her as he should be, otherwise I could never understand why you girls have been so kind to me.

Take care of yourself, Debbie. Thanks for reading.

Landyn

Reaching out to Debbie was the only way to defend my position. If she cared enough to ask how I was doing, a simple email letting her know could do no harm. As much as she probably thought, this was not an attempt to turn her against a friend. She was Anya’s friend first and foremost and this was not about her having to choose a side. It was just about getting my side of the story out to combat the heinously false narrative about me. My goal was to defend my character, and to even defend Anya’s—still torn between this being Anya’s decision or Jackson’s. He undoubtedly pushed her into doing this, and was clearly done under duress, but also refusing to be naïve, understanding to some degree, Anya’s willingness to add these lies to the restraining order. It did force me to face the cold heart reality, that a woman who truly loved me, would never do this under any circumstances. Anya was protecting a lie with lies and passed her judgment upon me. While loving her freely, but in security, no judgment was ever passed upon me. The whole time though, while claiming she loved me, she tipped the scales of justice against me, for not being well off enough to leave Jackson for. If Anya ever loved me, she would’ve done the right thing and asked for a divorce. She would’ve sat down with her kids and explained the situation to them. Instead, she sought to not only drive the last nail home in my coffin, but to throw the last pile of dirt upon it as well.

The court gave me an opportunity to respond to the restraining order, and responding wouldn’t have been an option if she was truthful in her statements. I didn’t blame her for being angry at me, but the restraining order felt strong enough without her deceit. To file police reports for a car break-in, accuse me of driving by her home and calling her house then hanging up were unnecessary. I get it, you love your kids, but you don’t ruin the lives of others with lies. If she protected them with the truth, that’s protecting the kids. Our whole relationship was harassment on her part the day she told me she needed permission from her kids, husband, family members and friends to leave her marriage. I honestly failed to decipher the difference between the woman I loved from a frat boy who brought a trusting woman behind a dumpster only to rape her. To allow and encourage me to trust her enough to fall for her as hard as I did, under terms that she promised would change if she loved me. To ask if I’d fight for her, never hesitating for a second because I trusted her love and wants so much. And for her to stay with the emotionally abusive prick she told me horrific things about that brought me exactly where she wanted me, was right up there with rape—I never consented to these terms. And what was my crime? Loving her? Wanting to be with her? Pressuring her to do the right thing by rightfully ending her marriage after all we shared? How could she be this much of a coward when she acted so courageously, defying him several times to visit me? My reward for accommodating and caring for her pain? My reward for defending her at every turn? A restraining order peppered with lies and falsehoods about the man I was. I had every right to not only be upset by this, but to also defend myself parallel to how I was attacked. I wasn’t the Great Gatsby. I wasn’t Glenn Close. I would go out on my terms. There was nothing left to lose, and with that mindset, it was my turn to tell the court my side of the story.

ANSWER TO THE STATEMENTS IN DV-100 AND OTHER REQUESTS

DV-120, ITEM 20 –MORE INFORMATION

Please accept this document as my answer to the statements in DV-100 and other request as related to the temporary restraining order filed by the protected person Anya Caiaphas with the Supreme Court of California, County of Orange, Lamoreaux Justice Center on September 20, 2011 and granted on September 23, 2011. Please refer to Case Number: BZV002294.

Personally, for me, this restraining order is irrelevant because I don’t plan on contacting Anya Caiaphas ever again, however this was a matter of someone attacking my character and about obtaining closure to a relationship that at one time really meant a lot to me. Unfortunately, for all of us, this was the only road made available to me because Anya Caiaphas has viciously and unfairly denied me any of the dignity and respect I deserved from someone who claimed to be “in love” with me. I felt she never held herself accountable at all for our relationship and for the way things ended between us. She even believes her only fault was “falling in love with me” and she was punished for that. However, I feel her fault was encouraging me to fall in love with her by withholding information from me that would’ve given me the chance to make a good informed decision thus avoiding a situation like this. I feel my character is being defamed and I am being unfairly labeled as a “stalker” a “harasser” or as “obsessed”. I feel this way because of the nature and depth of our relationship over a two-year span from June 2, 2007 through October 7, 2009. The truth is this; Anya and Jackson Caiaphas have been lying to everyone around them for years about their marriage and I became a victim of it because I opened my heart to Anya’s pain and trusted all she had told me about her unhappiness. Deep feelings and a shared bond she completely initiated and allowed me to feel. I feel if I don’t stand up for what I believe to be fair, and for my character, both her and Jackson learn nothing from this and will continue seeking emotional support outside their marriage. I want to ensure all their lies have now caught up to them especially if they are going to defame the character of others to keep those lies alive. If I don’t do this, I feel they will continue to hurt people outside the marriage the way Anya has hurt me. I also did this because I want Anya to know what the words “I love you” truly mean and what love truly is. I also did this for myself, to learn the truth so I can move on with my life and grow as well.

I feel it is important to establish the depth and nature of our relationship before I can begin my defense of her accusations. Everything I say can be supported by the texts I have included within this defense response. I certify under laws of perjury that these texts received from Anya Caiaphas between the dates December 1, 2007 and August 17, 2009 are completely true, and accurate. I’d be willing to take a lie detector test and contact the carrier to obtain a log if they come under any question. As Anya is well aware, I used to keep a journal that documented our relationship and included her daily texts as part of this journal. I have even included the dates and times for each text I received from her in 2007 and 2008. In 2009 however, I didn’t see any need to include the time but I do have the dates. It’s important to note, I did this out of love, and never thought I would need them to defend my character. Anya claims I have a lot of information on my computer at home about her, and she’s right; this is that information she speaks of. Anya will also probably deny everything because she is trying to keep alive a lie to protect her “family”; a lie I feel would have a noble quality except this lie has affected my life and has now attacked my good character. If Anya, at least the one I used to know, would’ve been receptive to admitting her faults to me, like I kindly requested, I could’ve easily let this go, respected her wishes and moved on with my life. I’ve never called her any names nor have I ever threatened her with physical violence so I feel she is denying me my protected first amendment right. I strongly feel these accusations would affect anyone who was in a deep relationship with someone who they truly loved, respected and appreciated especially if they were led to believe that person felt the same way. In a nutshell, I am only obsessed with three things; seeking closure, protecting my character, and the truth.

It is important to note that I take my sense of social and moral responsibility very seriously. My rationale in dating a married woman for me was deeply rooted within the Bible and how society has mocked the institution of marriage. The divorce rates are proof of the failure of marriage. It’s not based on love anymore but rather contracts and tax deductions. I’ve never dated a married woman before, nor ever considered it, so I had no idea what to expect, and I’ll admit I was naïve. I felt if Anya had told me, my husband cheated on me but I still love him and we’re working on things, and I tried to date her, I feel I deserve all the pain I feel, but she did not tell me that. Anya told me she does not love her husband. She doesn’t even kiss him and she never says “I love you” back whenever he says it to her. I also learned during our relationship, that not only did her husband cheat on her but was also very unrepentant about it afterwards. I would think a man with real love for someone would at least do everything in his power to make things right for his wife but maybe there are things I didn’t know. Maybe he knows Anya married him for his ability to provide and for nothing else? I question that now however what I felt when I decided to make the decision to see her, my reasons were these; love has been stripped from her heart by his actions and he promised to God and family to honor and cherish his wife yet he failed to do that. I further feel when God envisioned marriage its beginning and its end was not determined by contracts but by the heart. So, that was my moral reasoning for giving Anya a chance. There was no question I would sweep her off her feet by showing her I can be loving, respectful and faithful to her. I felt I was made for this, and I felt God, if He existed, brought me into her life for this reason. I was going to make this right for her and make her happy again but this time, it would be forever. I was going to show her I love the complete her, kids and all so she could be truly happy again.

Please see my defense to the temporary restraining order as stated below.

~ CLAIM #1 ~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“Since I applied for the original restraining order on 9/13/2011 I have received over 60 text messages, emails and over 50 items in the mail between 9/13/11 - 9/17/11.”

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

It’s important to point out that the original restraining order on 9/13/11 was denied due to lack of reasonable evidence. Please see Exhibit K. I also would like to point out in the packet of text messages Anya has included: (1) she included parts of one text on two pages several times and, (2) there were two duplicates. There were actually 39 texts. Please see Exhibit L for all the texts I did send her on 9/13/11. I will say I sent her an additional 4 texts the following day on 9/14/11 telling her she “will never receive emails, texts, or letters from me ever again”. I also let her know in these 4 texts that “I don’t know her anymore. She never existed to me. Her beauty is now dead. To have a nice life. I wish her the best.” So, the true total of texts sent to Anya were 43 during the days of 9/13/2011 and 9/14/2011, not 60. Of course, one could understand, her goal is to make me look as terrible as possible by not only providing you with a larger number but also without sending the ones that clearly state I don’t plan on contacting her again. I also did send her 2 emails. I have included both emails in the packet in their entirety so you can see their true intended nature. Please see Exhibit A and Exhibit B for these emails. Of the total of over 50 items I may have sent her, at least 25 of those items were CDs and gift bags. I’ll go into detail on these later in my defense.

~ CLAIM #2 ~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“Text messages said Mr. Lastman is going to “rearrange his looks for good.” which referred to my husband.”

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

Anya has included only excerpts of this message, but to be fair it’s in her nature to not disclose all information to people so they can make good informed decisions. It’s why I’m even here in the first place. So here is the entire text.

SEPTEMBER 13, 2011

11:38 a.m

“And let Shithead know if he comes to see me I’m going to rearrange his looks for good.”

I then sent a follow-up text, which doesn’t surprise me she didn’t include it in her packet, stating the following:

11:46 a.m

“That is a warning. Not a threat. If he comes to see me.”

There were two times during our relationship that Anya has given me reason to fear for my safety from Jackson Caiaphas, notwithstanding the fact we were seeing each other from the years 2007 through 2009, and he knew about our relationship and even my name because he was stalking me. These are the texts I received from Anya that prompted me to state what I did.

MONDAY, JANUARY 3, 2009

“We had a huge fight and he took off. Idk where he is off to but just in case he has ur address and he shows up don’t open the door. Remember we’re just friends.”

SATURDAY, JUNE 21, 2009

“I know he will go after you. I don’t want anything to happen to you.”

I must explicitly state I would never hurt anyone physically; only in self-defense. I only wanted Anya to know that if he comes to see me, I will defend myself accordingly. It’s also important to note that Mr. Jackson Caiaphas had been in my Facebook account therefore he cannot be trusted.

~ CLAIM #3 ~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“Mr. Lastman threatened to contact my kids.”

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

I have never threatened to contact her kids. These are kids I learned to grow fond of and they are innocent in all of this. In fact, I fell deeper in love with Anya because she shared their lives with me. I was also invited and accepted an invitation by Anya to see her daughter perform in a recital on Saturday, June 28, 2008. Another text is provided below to support I was in attendance that evening and what it meant to her.

SUNDAY, JUNE 29, 2008

8:34 p.m

“I’m still very touched you came to see my daughter perform. Made me realize how much I love you.”

Please see all the texts I have received from Anya Caiaphas I have provided as evidence to support the depth and nature of our relationship. Also, I included in Exhibit H an essay Anya gave me that Katie Caiaphas wrote. I was that close to Anya and it will explain why I had a hard time with our relationship’s end. Only through the gift I sent, or through this restraining order. her kids may find out indirectly, but never by direct contact. I guess if they found out indirectly, or if their parents come clean, her kids will blame me instead of blaming themselves for any problems in the marriage they have to know exists. If they did find out through their parents, it would be a good lesson for them to learn how important it is to respect the feelings and emotions of others by remaining faithful in their relationships but it appears both Anya and Jackson are too afraid to teach them that. In conclusion, I never threatened to contact her kids and I never would.

~ CLAIM #4 ~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“Landyn Lastman continuously sends offensive text messages “Shithead, his ass, fucker” etc.

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

I have told Anya she would not receive any further communication from me in any form on 9/14/2011 before I received the restraining order filed on 9/20/2011. I even sent her an email titled “My Final Communication” which I included. Please see Exhibit B for this email in its entirety. I did use these names to describe her husband. I don’t like her husband, and I’m certain Anya felt the same way to feel justified enough to have a relationship with me for two years. I don’t like the fact he cheated on his wife, further disrespected and dishonored her afterwards, and I had to pay the price for that because I opened my heart to her. He was also in my Facebook account cyber-stalking me for over a year in a half. I understand his curiosity however I feel it’s rather hypocritical considering he’s cheated on Anya multiple times. A marriage should stand for mutual trust, love and respect, and if that's missing, please do the world a favor and get a divorce. I am not happy I was a part of this man’s life for one day if she had any plans to stay after all I did for her and after all she told me about him. So yes, I said these things in reference to him, but I have every right to feel the way I do about him. In fact, let’s be honest, I’m sure Mr. Caiaphas has used a few choice words about me and called me a lot worse, especially after the package I sent to him. If he didn’t throw a death threat in there at me when he saw it, I’d be surprised. Taken that into consideration, shouldn’t I be the one in fear for my safety?

~ CLAIM #5 ~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“Some of his emails states “Don’t threaten me with no contact”, “I don’t need you to be disrespectful otherwise you will receive the same in return”, “Shithead can fuck an orangutan and bring you back the Ebola.”, “Our ending never sat well with me.”, “Someone will pay.”, “Call the National Guard or SEALS to come invade me, I don’t give a shit.”, “if you try to hurt me in any way you will deal with me and if you don’t like it tough shit.”, “No one will be safe, this is what happens when you fuck over good people.”, “It’s fucked up and it’s time you faced the music”, “Anya died.” Etc.”

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

In Exhibit A, I have included the email in its entirety. Again, it’s in Anya’s nature to disclose only parts of information people need to make good informed decisions for themselves. So, I would like to address each statement individually so there is complete clarity. If I told her these things over the phone, I could understand her not including everything in her statements, but she had the email right in front of her and yet she still choose this route to intentionally omit integral parts to not only mislead the court, but to also hurt me as if she hasn’t done enough of that already.

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(1) "Don't threaten me with no contact." & "I don't need you to be disrespectful otherwise you will receive the same in return"

She purposely left out the most essential part of this statement. The fact that she does this here provides evidence why I wanted an apology for encouraging me to fall in love with her without being truthful in the beginning about the real reasons why she was there. She purposely left out really important things I needed to know and that’s why we are here today. The complete message I sent with the missing part underlined, is provided below:

“Don’t threaten me with non-contact. I have no further reason to contact you and I don’t need you to be disrespectful otherwise you will receive the same in return.”

Please see Exhibit A that includes the entire hard copy of this email I sent to Anya on 9/11/2011.

(2) "Shithead could fuck an orangutan and bring you back the Ebola."

I’m very pleased she included this one. Again, she is leaving out the rest of this statement. The complete statement though reads as follows:

“The truth is Shithead could fuck an orangutan, bring you back the Ebola virus and you’d still stay.”

I made this statement in reference to Anya lying to me about the reasons she was still married to her husband and I took offense to it because if she had been honest with me from the beginning I would’ve never been in her life. 4 years of my life are now gone because I trusted what she told me about him. I felt used and betrayed by her, and her defense of him in her restraining order only proves I had the right to feel this way all along. Please see Exhibit B that includes the entire hard copy of this email I sent to Anya on 9/14/2011.

(3) “Our ending never sat well with me”

Again, she is leaving out the rest of this statement. The true statement reads as follows:

“I tried to let this go. The good lord knows I have. Our ending just never sat well with me.”

It never sat well with me because she attacked my character after two years of putting my heart and soul into her happiness. To have her accuse me of being a “harasser”, a “stalker” and “obsessed” after all she shared with me was brutal. I was the one who knew her pain. I was the one who knew her unhappiness. I knew what truly made her happy. To see her not go to bat for me was heartbreaking. I took it really hard. I provided evidence of counseling appointments at Exhibit K to show how difficult it was for me. It’s not about Anya being with me. She didn’t have to be with me. It’s not about that. This is not a “fatal attraction” at all. It’s about her knowing what love truly is. That love is a verb before it can become a noun. To know there’s a difference between lust and love. It’s about being respectful of the feelings and emotions of others. It’s about her treating me with the dignity and respect I feel I deserved from her. It’s about her looking inward and saying “you know what, Landyn may be right after all.” Whenever I questioned her love she would get angry with me but if she wasn’t going to fight for it, how could she ever get upset at me for questioning it? I sadly believed she was truly in love with me, but in the end the only person she was truly in love with was herself. I believe love at least knows “if” if it doesn’t know “when” therefore it removes uncertainty and it makes people feel secure and safe. The truth is Anya never made me feel safe and she never removed any uncertainty no matter what I did for her. She told me she was “in love” with me and I trusted that so when my character came into question, yes, the ending never sat well with me and she’d feel the same way if she were me. I feel we were both deserving of an ending on good terms. Please see Exhibit B that includes the entire hard copy of this email I sent to Anya on 9/14/2011.

(4) “Someone will pay."

Standing on its own, this sounds terrible. Again, she is leaving out the rest of this message. The true statement reads as follows:

“The one thing you never do in life, and I hope you teach your kids this, is to never encourage someone to fall deeply in love with you knowing you will let them go. You knew from day one what you were going to do. It was deliberate. It was malicious. It was intentional. All to feed your ego. You know it and that’s why you run like a scared cat. You harassed my heart for 2 years and I’ll be damned if you’re not going to pay for it in some way.”

I underlined “I hope you teach your kids this” to support I had no intention of contacting the kids. I feel she knew she was going to leave me with a ton of feelings because of things she shared with me after I was already deeply in love with her. Most notably, her mom along with her close friends and neighbors who have also been betrayed stayed for the kids. From the very beginning I clearly told her “I didn’t want to get hurt” and that it was the reason why I walked away from her in June 2007. She knew she had kids before she met me along with this information, and I felt she knew what she was going to do from day one. I clearly state in this letter there would be no physical harm done to anyone—that’s not in my nature, but I do speak out if I’ve been hurt like any other normal human being would especially when their character is questioned. The first amendment to the Constitution of the United States allows me that right. I’m not yelling “fire” in a crowded theater here—my words are all based in truth and in self-defense of my character. I’m allowed an emotional response after she sent me a heart pendant she claimed meant nothing. I didn’t want anyone to pay, not even her, but I needed closure so I could move on and let this go, and I feel she cruelly denied me that. Please see Exhibit B that includes the entire hard copy of this email I sent to Anya on 9/14/2011.

(5) “Call the National Guard or SEALS to come invade me. I don't give a shit."

She came close on this one, finally. The true statement reads as follows:

“So I’ll tell you what, you can call the National Guard or have a SEALS team come invade my residence.”

The day we broke up she told me she forwarded my personal information to a neighborhood police official and that she claims to “know people” in an attempt to intimidate me. So, I was basically mocking her with this statement because she knows so many people who knows OF her but don’t truly know her, but this is what you get with these types of people who have a false sense of power because they happen to know a couple of people in higher places. I have absolutely nothing to hide and again I’m just letting her know I’m only armed with the truth. Please see Exhibit B that includes the entire hard copy of this email I sent to Anya on 9/14/2011.

(6) “If you try to hurt me in any way, you will deal with me, and if you don't like it, tough shit."

She actually got this one right on. No need to provide the original statement. However, it was followed by the following:

“I’m not a violent man by any stretch of your imagination but I will tell you how I feel.”

This woman has not only hurt my life, but she continues to try to do so. She is willfully defaming my character and I have every right to defend it. If you hurt me, you will deal with me like you are now. Again, as long as I don’t call her names or threaten her with violence, in which I’ve never done nor would I ever do, I’m allowed to express how I feel. It’s my first amendment right. She betrayed me by not being honest with me when we met and I trusted her. After she approached me, asked me for my phone number, set up a date, told me her husband cheated on her multiple times, was upset with me for breaking her heart by walking away because she was married before we reconnected, then had the audacity to tell me I was immoral. Yes, if you hurt me, or question my character, I’m going to tell you how I feel so deal with it. I’d expect the same from her and I’d respect that. Please see Exhibit B that includes the entire hard copy of this email I sent to Anya on 9/14/2011.

(7) “No one will be safe. This is what happens when you fuck over good people."

Again, she only includes the part that makes me look bad. I could understand if this was a message I left on her phone, but she has the email right in front of her. This was sent to intentionally mislead the court and taken completely out of context. This is my statement in its entirety:

“Since there will apparently be no apology, I will state for the record, your inconsideration of my feelings will not yield an ounce of violence from me unless in self-defense and believe me I am ready for anyone and anything. Your inconsideration however will yield a true revealing of who you and Jackson really are. It’s my gift to you for all the pain you put me and others through and no one will be safe from the truth of who you and him really are. This is what happens when you fuck over good people in life.”

No one will be safe from the truth. I know the truth is very scary to both Jackson and Anya. Again, this is about a person who has made her own bed but is afraid to sleep in it. All I wanted was a sense of closure and was even willing to meet with Anya or exchange texts so we could end on good terms but she never gave me that opportunity. If she truly feared for her safety and for the safety of her family, why wouldn’t she? Anya encouraged me to fall in love with her without telling me when we met that she was there because she didn’t want to break up a family. She put me in a terrible position by encouraging me to fall in love with her if she was going to look at things that way. I blame both Anya and Jackson. I felt absolutely betrayed that I had to learn this after she allowed me to feel so much for her and became such an integral part of my life. It was natural to be hurt by that emotionally. I really tried to let things go but she really wronged me—I was allowed an emotional response—I had a legitimate purpose to defend myself. Please see Exhibit B that includes the entire hard copy of this email I sent to Anya on 9/14/2011.

(8) “It's fucked up and it's time you faced the music."

She is right about this one however it was preceded by the following:

“You are trying to portray me as wanting to break up a family and hurt kids. Kids you allowed me to grow fond of.”

Yes, I believe that’s pretty fucked up to do to someone. She brought me really close to her kids by sharing their daily lives with me, so much so I knew them better than even her own husband did. This is fully substantiated in the texts I received from Anya that are included in this response letter. This hurt me more than anything. This is just a whole lot of hurt talking here. I could only imagine, knowing how much she loves kids, how badly she would feel if I had shared the daily lives on my children with her, if I had them, giving her false hope. Please see Exhibit B that includes the entire hard copy of this email I sent to Anya on 9/14/2011.

(9) “Anya Died”

I never said Anya died. I did say, in a text, her beauty died in my heart, so in that sense, she did die to me. I think what’s she trying to do here is tell the court I want her dead or something. That couldn’t be further from the truth.

~ CLAIM #6 ~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“Mr. Lastman continues to threaten me and my kids and I’m very concerned about his comment to do bodily harm to my husband as mentioned above.”

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

I’ve never threatened her kids with anything, nor would I ever do so. I’ve only defended myself with the truth in an effort to get the closure I needed so I could move on. I’ve never called her a single name or threatened her with any form of bodily harm nor would I ever. Please refer to my statements in Claim#2 about her husband, and again I would never physically harm anyone unless in self-defense. I’m in more physical danger from Jackson Caiaphas than he is from me. I was in a romantic relationship with his wife for two full years. Common sense needs to be exercised here by the court.

~ CLAIM #7 ~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“I have attached copies of pictures and I’ve asked repeatedly to stop contacting me but seems like the more I ask the more he escalates in anger and does not stop harassing me and my family.”

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

The problem is Anya is not asking, she is threatening me and attacking my character. I’ve included nearly two years worth of texts from Anya Caiaphas in my response. Would anyone, after a two year seriously deep relationship with someone, be content with being accused of being a stalker and a harasser? Wanting to be with someone that not only allowed but encouraged me to care for them and to love them dearly, is truly my only crime. Based on the depth and nature of our relationship, I was upset she treated me in this manner instead of showing me the dignity and respect I deserved. The dignity and respect I gave her throughout our relationship. The dignity and respect that is consistent with her many “I love you forever” claims. She has attacked my character unfairly and expected that to not affect me. I’m certain, if I had treated her the same way she treated me, she would escalate in anger as well. If I had called her names and threatened her with any bodily harm, I could understand her anger however I’ve done none of these things nor would I. She needs to take responsibility for her behavior and understand it’s why this continued as long as it did. She needs to learn how to respect the feelings and emotions of others and how her disposition and attitude contributes to their less than desired responses. Giving her a restraining order only reinforces her bad behavior towards others. She should be discouraged from pursuing relationships with men outside her marriage and the same with her philandering husband. Granting a restraining order gives them the freedom to continue hurting others.

~ CLAIM #8 ~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“He has also contacted my friends and harassed them by messaging them about my life and how terrible my situation is to him.”

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

First, I contacted her friends because they were giving Anya advice without knowledge of all the facts and I felt, as good friends, they should have the same information I have. Since I know her friends and they know me, I felt comfortable doing so and in no way shape or form did I ever harass them. In fact, they never objected to any of my emails. Yes, her life is terrible to me because I knew it was terrible for her as well. As evidenced in text messages I had received from her below:

Sunday, September 28, 2008

11:56 a.m.

“Thank u for being my best friend. Ur not responsible for how I feel about my sit. It’s just the way it has been and still is.”

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

8:57 p.m.

“I’m not doing so well. I’m really depressed. I canceled work for tom. I’m going to need a couple of days to snap out of this darkness.”

Tuesday, January 4, 2009

“I’m depressed and sad.”

Friday, February 6, 2009

“No kidding! Kind of sick doing it alone!”

“I know but I can’t complain cuz I don’t work full-time and it’s my assumed role. Sorry for venting.”

“I know I make some noise sometimes.”

“Thx 4 understanding. I hauled ass today and haven’t stopped driving since 3:30 and won’t be done until baseball is over at 8:30. Gets old!”

“I just think maybe helping w/one way or two would take a great load off my back esp this rain! Ok I’m done. Sorry!”

That’s pretty typical. I work out at 5 so I can stay looking decent and work all day till I pick up. Then I have to handle dinner and homework in between!”

“Sorry I had to go. I walked up but guess they r not quite done yet. Too loud in here to talk. Found a female on a bench so sitting down next 2 her. Safer.”

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

“You’ll never believe what is happening. You’re the only person I can tell. Andrew is on the same baseball team w/the son of one of the girls he cheated with.”

“Andrew has his 1st practice game tonight and I didn’t go cuz I hate her and she hates me. I don’t know how this is going to shake down when we start real games.”

“Cuz I told her husband and eventually he left her. She has since re-married.”

“I just don’t know how I’m going to be able to handle my anger. Don’t want to miss Andrew’s games but don’t want to sit close to her either.”

“I have an idea! Why don’t you go to the games and sit with me and they can go sit together! I’m brilliant!”

“She treated me badly afterwards. She would talk about me and give me nasty looks when I would run into her around town.”

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

“I miss you more than you know.”

“You don’t see me throughout the day. You don’t see what I go through.”

Monday, April 27, 2009

“Morning! Made it through another night. Seems like I’m living day by day waiting for it to end so I can sleep it off.”

“At batting cages w/Andrew.”

“Yup! One female employee!”

Friday, August 14, 2009

“I don’t like where I am in my life.”

“I’m constantly stressed and I don’t like it.”

To say I harassed them is absolutely false, and I only contacted them out of my love for Anya. I wanted them to know the truth. They thought Anya was being selfish and that she just fell out of love with her husband, and I wanted them to know they were wrong. There were real reasons why she felt the way she did and I felt they should know about them if they were giving her advice whether to stay or leave her marriage. The texts prove I had a real reason to feel this way. One of the friends I contacted, approached me just this past June at a restaurant and asked me how I was doing. Her friends were always kind to me and I felt comfortable reaching out to them. They know I’m not the person she is making me out to be. If they felt harassed by any of my emails, they would’ve let me know.

~ CLAIM #9 ~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“Also, since I applied for the restraining order last week 9/13/2011, I have received an unusually high counts of phone calls and hang ups to my home.”

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

In the day and age of caller ID, how come she wasn’t able to trace or provide the court with a phone number? I can prove via my phone records it was not me. It’s also important to note I don’t even know her home phone number. In addition, Anya and Jackson Caiaphas have a history of infidelity in their marriage therefore maybe my package abruptly forced one of them to end their relationship with someone else and that someone else wasn’t happy about it? Purely speculative I know but possible based on prior history and their attempt to deceive the court. The bottom line, again, this is absolute slander and defamation of character without proper proof. Since they are defaming and slandering my name, then I have every right to respond. Please refer to the first amendment of the United States Constitution. I’ve got nothing to hide. I’m confident the truth is on my side—it’s all I’m armed with here. They have an incentive to deceive everyone and it should be common sense to see. This court cannot reward those who lie and punish the one who tells the truth.

~CLAIM #10~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“I received over 50 items in the mail sent to my house packaged and disguised as coming from one of my customers with their customer information since 8/13/2011 last Tuesday. I have attached copies of pictures of items sent in mail along with copious amounts of messages. The items include but not limited to: CD’s, DVD’s, a bra, and a soiled beach towel sprayed with men’s cologne, random shopping bags, vulgar and offensive notes attached attacking my husband and his character and references made to my children and contacting them. I have also received books on divorce with endless pages of highlighted paragraphs and handwritten notes and instructions and directions to me.”

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

She must think we’re still in August but I’m sure she meant September. These over 50 items, if there truly were over 50 which I highly doubt, was my attempt to obtain closure. This was my gift to Jackson Caiaphas; ALL the gifts she had given me over the course of our relationship. I was returning the pain to him that did not belong to me. The pictures of these items were mostly everything she had ever given me. She even left out a couple of things I included, please see Exhibit J. but of course that would show how much I cared about her. There were no DVD’s sent in this package. Only CD’s she made me as evidenced in several text messages Anya sent me that I included in my response. The bra is hers. She left “it” at my place. Again, this is evidenced in the texts I received from Anya included in my response. The so-called “soiled beach towel sprayed with men’s cologne” was actually clean when I sent it, and did not belong to her but we did use it to fool around in on our beach. Of course, in her picture, the woman of great morality, doesn’t open it fully to show that it isn’t soiled. If anything, it smells like Apothia. This was the perfume she used to wear, and I sprayed the inside of the box with it. She left two bottles of perfume at my place (Apothia and Kai) and I returned those as well to her as pictured with the iPod alarm clock she bought me. These random shopping bags were all the gift bags she brought to me that held her gifts inside. A peppermint bark tin I kept for the time she brought me candy during the holidays and a card she gave me. It’s really sad to return that one because it came from a good place. The “Girls are Weirdos” book was something she gave me as well and again, I believed that came from a good place. I also sent her back a spa gift card she had gotten me that I never used. I figured it would come in handy especially now since her unfortunate car accident. Unfortunately, I needed to send her back all the things that represented the Anya that never truly existed. I’m getting the real Anya now after giving her every opportunity in the world to prove me wrong. Sending her back everything she ever gave me was sending her the message that I’m moving on with my life. For the record, I taped at the bottom of the box a message to her husband that read “Happy Birthday Asswipe.” and below it “Cheaters Never Propser”—my only regret is not using spell check. This was clearly addressed to Jackson Caiaphas, as pictured, and not to Anya. I will go into detail about slanderous accusations made about contacting her children, the vulgar language, and the books I sent in my next response. In summary, in an effort to achieve closure, since she wasn’t gracious enough to provide that to me so I could move on without doing something like this, I sent back all the gifts and things I held on to, back to him for his birthday. This box, the gifts came in, was completely wrapped and disguised as a birthday gift to him.

~CLAIM #11~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“The vulgar notes include “The time has come to teach your kids what matters most in this life.” “This is the consequence”, “Happy birthday Asswipe.””

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

The note I attached inside the gift was directed at Jackson Caiaphas and not her kids. She said this was a threat to contact her kids and all I said was the time has come to teach your kids what matters most in this life based on the evidence that lies before them (her gifts to me sent back to him). Anya’s gifts truly represent what brings people happiness in life, not money or things. Anya is beyond a great mother to her children however I do question some values that are being taught to them in this life. Again, there has NEVER been a threat made to contact her kids from me. I would never do such a thing. Her goal is to make me look like a monster but she’s doing it by defaming my character and slandering me, and it’s wrong. She has no incentive to be honest. Being honest destroys her entire false narrative as she is intentionally trying to deceive the court about me.

The “This is the consequence” was followed by:

“For being the catalyst behind someone’s unhappiness and unfortunate accident all because she met someone who truly appreciated her, respected her and loved her. Don’t you ever criticize her for what she found in me and us.”

I’ve included the message attached to the box in its entirety so you could see its true intended nature. Please see Exhibit C. I blame him for her car accident because I knew how she lived her life everyday. I knew all about her stress. I pushed her to leave because I was afraid maybe one day she would get hurt. Little did I know my fears for her would come to fruition. I said some terrible things about her in my email but the truth is I’m mad that she was in an accident because I know if she were with me, it would’ve never happened. I knew how she lived her life everyday. It’s why I forced her to tell him the truth if she truly was “in love” with me. I was trying to save Anya from herself. I’m just not happy at all she was hurt in this accident. There’s a human being aspect here, but I have to defend my character at all costs. I’m hoping after all this is said and done, she will begin to embrace a life of truth and honesty because she is mentally ill as long as she remains married to Jackson Caiaphas. If anything, I hope this may open the door for her to have a love she truly deserves from someone someday. One, who truly loves, respects and appreciates her like I did.

In regards to my “Happy Birthday Asswipe” message. Any man who cheats on his wife while she is pregnant because she gained weight. Any man who cheats on his wife with another married woman. Any man who disrespects or dishonors his wife in any way, and any man who is the same man who has done those things, and then hypocritically cyber-stalks me and gets in my Facebook account, is an Asswipe to me, among other things.

~CLAIM #12~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“The books are called “The Good Divorce” and “Cheat” something. There are over 200 pages highlighted on subjects such as “letting go of guilt”, “how to”, “Disorderly and orderly separation”, “What divorce is and is not.”. “Pathways to a good divorce”, “What’s normal in a divorce” etc.”

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

The books I sent are called “The Good Divorce” and “Why Good People have Affairs”. I put a sticky on that one and wrote, “That was for Anya only.” To add the books to the gift was a last second decision on my part. She did not give me these books. I bought these books and read them. I found them interesting so I highlighted and wrote notes basically for myself. I never thought I would send them to her so I forgot I had highlighted and wrote notes on them. It’s nice to know she’s giving them a gander. They were really good, and really helps explain what I was fighting for. I believe if she truly loved me she would pay attention to books such as these, but I’m certain she was only in love with the idea of being in love again and she found a fool who thought she truly loved him. I’m not a fool anymore, that’s for certain. This is the proof I needed.

~CLAIM #13~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“Along with physical submitted evidence of Mr. Lastman’s harassment and stalking, there have been several recent events that are completely out of what is normal in our lives. These events include: increased amount of phone calls and hang-ups to my home, sighting of Mr. Lastman driving by, and a break in to one of our cars on Sunday 9/18/2011 which occurred on my driveway. I have filed a break in report with the Dana Point Police Dept. this morning on 9/20/11 with the DR# 112-61586. I also filed a harassment charge report with the officer with the DR# 112-61587 today. This was my second harassment report in 2 years.”

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

This submitted physical evidence of “harassment” and “stalking” is actually called obtaining closure and is nothing more than “submitted physical evidence” of me moving on. If Anya is unhappy about my moving on, she can contact me at any time. I promise I won’t defame her character the way she had chosen to defame mine and I’d show her all the respect and dignity in the world. I would never obstruct her first amendment right the way she has obstructed mine.

Again, not only do I not know her home phone number, I can produce phone records that prove I didn’t call and hang up. I have way too much pride to do that. Again, Jackson and Anya have had other affair partners and maybe their relationships are now being shaken up by my actions? I don’t know.

I did not drive by her house. I have much better things to do and no time to. Who witnessed me? What time? What day? What’s my driver’s plate number? How was this confirmed? There was no eyewitness name attached to this accusation, nor dates or times, yet she still makes it.

The break-in report is pure defamation. I have no prior criminal history nor would I ever do something like this. I went to the Dana Point Police Department and learned DR# 112-61589 was the break-in report and DR# 112-61586 was the harassment report. First off, not only does she file a break-in report, she includes only an unclear darkened picture. What is the name and badge number of the officer who would take this report as a “break-in”? Where is the picture of broken glass that would provide real evidence of a break-in? Did an officer come and take fingerprints? I can understand she’s not happy with me, but to take it to this extent to cover up a lie is criminal, in itself. This is a perfect example of why I questioned her honesty and why I was upset she attacked my character. This is why I felt the way I did about her withholding the truth from me at the very beginning of our relationship. Please note she signed this under state perjury laws. She is either trying to defame my character to protect a lie or being bullied by her husband, Jackson Caiaphas, who is even coercing her to commit perjury. It’s hard to believe Anya would suggest I would ever do such a thing. She’s knows me better than that.

~CLAIM #14~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“I met Mr. Lastman over 4 years ago. He has been harassing me for over 2 years and I would just like to be left alone. I don’t want Mr. Lastman to continue to threaten, harass, stalk me, and my family. He has psychologically abused me for years and I’m in fear for my life and the wellbeing of my kids, my husband, and friends.”

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

Again, the gifts I sent back to her were the gifts she had given me over the course of our nearly 2-year relationship. I was putting closure on our relationship and moving on. Based on the emails, texts I sent her, and gifts I sent back, this restraining order is pure flattery at this point. I’m not obsessed with Anya. I was obsessed with the truth and with who Anya Caiaphas truly is. I wasn’t sure if she was truly in love with me or truly in love with the idea of being in love again. I needed to know how to feel. If this hasn’t taught me the truth, nothing ever will. Anya Caiaphas claims I have psychologically abused her for years. That’s very interesting because I feel the exact same way however I actually have evidence to support my claims of psychological abuse. Please see Exhibit G for this evidence. I would like to see evidence of this psychological abuse she speaks of. Has she ever sought psychological counseling? Where are the records? She has provided no evidence just hearsay. Anya Caiaphas encouraged me to fall deeply in love with her without telling me the real reasons she was still married to a philanderer. She told me what we had was “very special”. She allowed me to grow fond of her kids and then allowed me to be in a position that if I wanted to be with her it would come at the expense of their happiness. You just don’t do that to people you’re “in love” with. In response to being in fear for her life I would like to see evidence of that. I’ve never threatened her with bodily harm nor have called her any names. I will always care about Anya and I would never dream of hurting her physically in any way shape or form. My character was unfairly attacked, I had to defend it, and seek the truth so I could move on with my life. If Anya had been gracious enough to allow me to take another path, I would have.

~CLAIM #15~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“Mr. Lastman is obsessed with me and stalks me. He knows information about me and my family in detail. He makes references to them “How is your arm from your car accident”, “You never told me about your Sunday family dinners,” “Call your family lawyer” Etc.

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

For 2 years after our breakup, please refer to all the texts from Anya included within my response, I’ve been a wreck. I became “obsessed” only because Anya’s love left me confused, I could’ve sworn it was real. I don’t need any further proof than to look at this restraining order, and all the false accusations she makes within it, to know she has no idea what love truly is. It’s really all I needed to know, even learning I wasn’t crazy for questioning it, the way she made me feel at times. My anger with her stems mostly from her not being honest with me about the real reason she was there, after encouraging me to fall in love with her, before hitting me with “as mothers we sacrifice our happiness for the kids”. She then tried turning me into an immoral crazy psycho stalker and harasser who wanted to break up a family. After all she told me, in all these texts I’ve included, that alone will always blow me away. I really don’t think I could ever trust the words “I love you” from someone ever again. So yes, I did take this hard. I only became “obsessed” with understanding why she chose to treat me this way. When it came down to my thoughts being more focused around my broken heart, than being focused on my mother who is battling Cancer, a woman who never hurt me a day in her life, my heart and mind sought closure in order to shift my focus where it should be. As long as no one was physically threatened or harmed, closure at this point was something I had to find no matter what. I think anyone who truly loved someone, who really believed that person felt the same way about them, would have a hard time letting go of that love—the kind of love she led me to believe I had with her. The truth is Anya loves herself far too much to know what love truly is. It’s not a bad thing to love yourself, but when it leads you to feeling entitled to affection from others, it’s the worst thing imaginable. In the end, the only things I became “obsessed” with was the truth and in obtaining closure.

The information gathered about Anya’s “car accident” was from her Facebook profile picture—her forearm was noticeably damaged. Of course, I worried and asked her through a letter if she was okay. She finally broke down and told me she was in an accident. I didn’t even know it was a car accident until I saw a court filing online. Please see a copy of Anya’s letter to me at Exhibit D.

I also came across an internet periodical her son wrote about his Bar Mitzvah referencing the Sunday Night Family Dinners he looked forward to (Please see Exhibit E). I think if she had been truthful from the beginning about everything, including the Sunday Night Family dinners, I would’ve made better choices. To read her son looked forward to those and my hopes of being with Anya hinged upon breaking those up for him is beyond painful to me—she intentionally hid them from me but I didn’t want that kind of protection.

~CLAIM #16~

Anya Caiaphas’s Statement:

“I would just like to request Mr. Lastman to stop harassing me so it doesn’t keep going for 4 more years of calling the police, and going to court. Thank you for your consideration”.

Landyn Lastman’s Response:

She is completely flattering herself at this point. It’s important to point out she filed for the restraining order after telling her I would not contact her again and after sending her back all the gifts she ever sent me. If she is unhappy about my moving on, she can contact me at any time and again, I promise not to defame her character, obstruct her first amendment right to an emotional response, and treat her with dignity and respect.

SUMMARY DEFENSE RESPONSE:

This was all about obtaining closure for me. It’s not about the restraining order being granted or not because I’d never break it. My concerns are these; I have provided evidence based on my response that Anya Caiaphas has not fully disclosed the most essential details of her statements. She included only excerpts of words written when she had the entire emails in front of her to intentionally hide their intended nature and meaning from the court. She also failed to mention with purposeful intent, the items sent to her were mostly all the gifts she gave me over the course of our relationship—these were not random items mailed to someone in a box. They had meaning to me and maybe they had meaning to her too. Anya has every right to feel hurt and to be upset at me for sending them back, however these items were not allowing me to move on and she used them to manipulate my feelings for her. I had to send her the message that when you say, “I love you” to someone, and when you allow and encourage someone to have deep feelings for you in this kind of situation. you have to mean it. There are people out there who do take those words, trust them, and take her actions seriously regardless of her “situation”. Anya discounted my feelings and emotions with these gifts and my message by sending them back to her was, I’m letting you go and moving on. I feel what I’ve done gives me no choice but to as this act did nothing less than extinguish all the hope I had left. More importantly, sending the gifts to her husband symbolized returning the pain back to the person it should truly belong to. Hopefully this will teach him to respect and honor the feelings of not only Anya, but others as well, and to be respectful and faithful in the commitments he makes in front of God and family.

The thing that concerns me the most about her statements were the blatant lies about the “break-in” report, threatening to contact her kids, and the calls and hang ups to her home. All three were acts of libel and defamation of character. The lack of evidence provided with these statements allows me to feel that way, coupled with the fact I didn’t do any of them nor would I ever—having too much to lose being a certified public accountant. This restraining order was about moving on with my life, by accepting a very hard truth and obtaining closure. The restraining order in itself is irrelevant to me simply because I don’t ever plan on contacting her again so it would never get broken either way. My fear however is based on Anya’s statements and her clear intended nature to not fully disclose the information she had in front of her, and the false accusations she made that defame my character therefore this order should not be granted. Her lack of honesty and her “truth by omission” or “only when asked” creed is why we are here today. She encouraged me to fall deeply in love with her without telling me the real reasons she was there, even after asking for them. This wasn’t something we couldn’t help—I took a lot of precautions and even sought assurances before getting involved with her, due to her situation, that quite frankly, most guys simply wouldn’t have done. I’m afraid if this restraining order is granted to Anya, that it would only be reinforcing her bad behavior; that it’s okay to continuing seeking “love” outside her marriage. That if someone cares for her deeply and freely because of the manipulative manner in which she shows her “love” and then begins to pressure her to do the right things and live an honest life, that it’s okay for her to defame their character by filing police reports claiming they are “harassing” and “stalking” her because of feelings she allowed them to have, due to her lack of disclosure. By saying this, it doesn’t mean I’m excluding myself from the equation. Unfortunately, I have to learn to close my heart and not trust people as much as I have. All because Anya is married, doesn’t mean I had no grounds to defend myself as the texts included in this response clearly show her allowing me to feel as deeply as I did.

As far as her accusations made about my “harassment”, I feel by “loving” me the way she did, with the hidden intent to fill a void in her marriage without my knowledge, in itself, was a form of harassment to me. She had no right allowing herself to love a man without restraint then expect that same man to love her with restraint. She never had my consent to be in a relationship with her, in this situation, if she planned to stay with a philandering husband she led me to believe abused her to the point she no longer had any feelings left for him. She never had my consent to even talk to me if she ever viewed being with me also meant giving up her kids. It’s as if she was a salesman who used the “bait and switch” technique with me, and then accused me of harassment and stalking when I asked for my money back. The texts from Anya, I have included in this response, clearly show I had a “legitimate” purpose to feel the way I did allowing me an emotional response. She led me to believe she was “in love” with me, and as long as I don’t threaten her with any physical harm or call her any names, I felt I had a right to communicate how I felt to her.

As far as her accusations made about my “stalking”, first, she’s not someone I don’t know, like an obsessed fan of a celebrity. I knew everything about Anya only because of all she told me (please refer to the texts I’ve included). I felt everything for Anya because of all she ever told me. We shared a deep emotional and physical bond for two years. So much so we referred to each other as “soul mates” and “one”. It’s also fair to point out Anya had a so-called “stalker” before me. I didn’t “google” her to physically harm her. The truth is I “googled” her because I still cared and because I needed to know some hard truths—a form of therapy. Ask her why she made me feel so awful whenever I questioned her love if she could easily accuse me of harassment and stalking? I needed to know how to feel because I was holding on—essentially the reason why I “googled” her. I simply needed to know the truth; to know if she was authentic or not. I wouldn’t have been able to take the necessary steps to move on if I had not “googled” her. Again, I’ve never called her names and I’ve never threatened her with physical harm nor would I ever do such things. She has never been in credible harm from me, therefore what she is accusing me of is not stalking.

As for as her accusations made about my being “obsessed” I was only passionate about accepting the truth, protecting my character, and then obtaining closure. Anya Caiaphas is not the person I thought she was. It was a hard truth to accept but I have no choice but to. One may argue that this response is obsessive in nature, and yes, there are a lot of feelings here however I’m more obsessed with the truth and protecting my character than anything, and not obsessed with someone who clearly doesn’t respect me nor love me.

It’s also important to note, I sent Jackson Caiaphas her heart pendant back on September 11, 2011 and he may have received it on September 13, 2011. So, in case they try to say I sent that after I received the order, they would be lying. I have a perfect record and I would not do anything to disrespect this order. Also, Anya knows of a police official who lives in her neighborhood who possibly was the one who took the broken car piece as a “break-in” report. I don’t know how “break-in” reports can be taken without proper evidence of a break-in and that really concerns me. This police official hopefully recognizes he/she is a “public” servant and not the servant of Anya and Jackson Caiaphas.

In conclusion, either way, granted or not, the restraining order is irrelevant to me because I would never disobey it, however I am concerned that based on Anya’s claims, she may accuse me of things I did not do because I may be at the mall, or the bookstore, and she so happens to be there, sees me then falsely accuses me. The court has now been made aware of this behavior and will hopefully take her truth by omission behavior into serious consideration. In addition, sending her gifts back and sending her an email titled “My Final Communication” and texts telling her I’m not going to be contacting her in any way, shape or form again is showing her that I was moving on.

In closing, I’d like to say this so nothing is left misunderstood…

This whole ordeal is about someone who pursues a life of honesty and truth versus someone who pursues a life of continued dishonesty and entitlement. Anya Caiaphas encouraged me to fall deeply in love with her without telling me the real reasons she was still married after I asked for them. All my actions before this point were done out of love and trusting in all the things she ever told me. Please see Exhibit I for all I put my trust in. I had to finally painfully accept that Anya Caiaphas was not in love with me but in love with the idea of being in love again and used me to fill a void in her marriage. I only say this because it was never a question of “when” but a question of “if”. Love always knows enough to promise. It may have been lust on Anya’s part, but not love. I truly loved her. I truly cared for her. I put her own happiness above mine. I trusted she was “in love” with me and I felt betrayed when she didn’t go to bat for me after 2 years of going to bat for her against a husband who disrespected her heart and mind for over fifteen years.

Anya is an exceptional mother to her kids. I hope they know that.

Anya is not a bad person; however, I believe she is emotionally and mentally unwell in her marriage to Jackson, and she will never get better as long as she remains married to him.

This is not a “fatal attraction”. Anya never had to be with me. She never had to love me. I understand not everyone is going to love me, and that’s a part of life. However, I felt she did have to treat me with a measure of respect and dignity, and not get upset when I would question her love. She absolutely owed me the truth over protection, and to not attack my character whenever I pursued the truth. When she chose to do that, it was all about obtaining closure, accepting the truth about her “love” and then letting go. I feel that’s possible now..

I apologize to everyone, including this court, that it had to come down to this, but I hope it’s a lesson that teaches everyone to always respect the heart, feelings and emotions of others in this life. I also hope it teaches everyone to always pursue a life that honors the truth rather than a life that honors a lie. I can only hope Anya will pass this down to her children one day so they never have to experience anything like this in their lives like we did.

Thank you for your consideration.

Landyn Lastman

After finishing my response to the restraining order, I went to visit my mother, asking her if she would drop the package in the mail for me. After explaining to her it would be a violation of the restraining order if I mailed it myself, she agreed to do it, having to also mail a copy to Anya as well. Knowing Anya would receive a copy along with the court felt a bit satisfying--especially calling her out on the false police reports she filed. I then waited anxiously for the day of the hearing—the chance to tell my side of the story. Never doubting for a second the greatest justice system in the entire world would get to the truth, and punish those who tried to deceive it. My eyes never leaving the empty label torn prescription bottle rolling on my nightstand.